Jackdani7401 Posted January 8, 2023 Posted January 8, 2023 Also….you’ll spend the first 12-18 months teaching them to walk and talk and the rest of their lives telling them to sit down and be quiet😂😂😂 2 2
RedLantern Posted January 8, 2023 Posted January 8, 2023 Lot of good advice above! I’ll add, parenting is HARD, such a big life change is HARD. It’s hard on you personally, it’s hard on your wife, and it’s hard on your relationship. Don’t worry if you don’t love it all the time - most of us experience a significant amount of negative emotion as parents, to go along with all the profound meaning, joy, and satisfaction in your life. There’s nothing wrong with you or your wife if you don’t like it all the time! 2
TR Posted January 9, 2023 Posted January 9, 2023 Congratulations! Enjoy the ride. Nap when they nap. Game changer. 1
Cigar-Therapy Posted January 9, 2023 Posted January 9, 2023 Best advice I ever received … The mother will take care of the child - her attention and devotion will be 100% towards that - even to her own detriment. Not that you won’t help- but as the father and husband, your job is to take care of your wife and the mother the same way she focuses on the child. 3
gormag38 Posted January 9, 2023 Posted January 9, 2023 Congrats!!! As a recent first-time father (daughter just turned 5 months) I can easily recall the anxiety and excitement of those first few days. Obviously if you can sleep when the baby does, definitely do it. Neither my wife nor I are big 'nappers' so this was something that we both struggled with but wish we could've done more of. Secondly, your partner will ABSOLUTELY be 'feeling all the feelings'. As her partner, try and look out for her. Try to anticipate her needs if she's struggling, take an extra night shift with the baby, ask her how she is doing, etc. Sometimes the smallest thing can make a world of difference. Lastly, some words I received in a card during my wife's baby shower have been ringing true: ENJOY EVERY SINGLE MOMENT! The good, the funny, the sad and the bad. Enjoy them all. Try and live in the moment. Five months was over in a blink of an eye for me and based off of everyone's answers in this thread it sounds like it's only going to seem faster and faster. Again congratulations! It'll be the best thing you have ever done! 1
SMELTZ Posted January 9, 2023 Posted January 9, 2023 Congratulations! Enjoy every moment, make as many memories as you can and always be around as much as possible. 1
Fuzz Posted January 9, 2023 Posted January 9, 2023 I don't have kids (the world lets out a huge sigh of relief!), but this was the advice of a friend to a newly minted father: Look at the contents of your house, then get rid of anything that can be stained. If you can't get rid of it, cover it in plastic. Never wear white again until after the children move out. Two things you will wish you had more of, sleep and money. Having more than one kid can be a double edged sword. On the one hand, the kids can play together, giving yourself a bit more free time. On the other hand, they can conspire against you. 1 1
BEVOSREVENGE Posted January 9, 2023 Posted January 9, 2023 On 1/7/2023 at 7:08 PM, Rhinoww said: Would add be really nice to your wife for the next few months. She is basically running a marathon and then goes sleep deprived for a few months. Post partum is legit. This is very true but I would add be really nice to her for the rest of your life, as she is giving you the best gift ever! 3
Popular Post benfica_77 Posted January 11, 2023 Author Popular Post Posted January 11, 2023 Thanks everyone for the great wisdom and some laughs as well! Mama and baby are home and we are handling things well. Just need to be kind to each other and rest when we can. In my lack of sleep delirium I thought I saw in the 24:24 a box of HDM Epi No#2 and drafted an email...I go check again 24:24 before clicking send and it was actually Monte Especial No2 loll Glad I didn't send the email and get a virtual smack across the head from @WarriorPrincess 7 1
bassistheplace Posted January 11, 2023 Posted January 11, 2023 Congratulations! Being a Dad is the best job ever 1
SpecialK Posted January 11, 2023 Posted January 11, 2023 you've got time to baby proof... that's the next hurdle... covering all electrical outlets... making sure you have wall anchors on heavy furniture so it won't fall.... Toilet locks so they can't open them... cabinet locks so they can't get to cleaning supplies... etc... Sorry for extra chores... but... maybe better to start early ? Oh also Congrats!! it will go fast... 1
dshot Posted January 11, 2023 Posted January 11, 2023 Congrats! I have two young kids 1 boy (4 1/2) and a daughter (1 yr old). I'll say these two things since there's lots of good advice already. 1) Help mom as much as possible. Food make sure mama is eating well and drinking plenty of water. She's taking the lion share of the work and those hormones can be nuts so just be supportive. 2) Try to find enjoyment in it. At first they are a vegetable so it's hard. But it gets more fun. Be involved so you don't hate the work of being a parent because there now is no days off and even if you do take time for yourself you'll find yourself talking or thinking about your kid. Also, you get to level up as they learn more. Better activities, toys to play with, funnier conversations with them(Once they start talking). Bottom Line there is a light at the end of the tunnel just hang in there. 1
Ford2112 Posted January 11, 2023 Posted January 11, 2023 1 hour ago, SpecialK said: you've got time to baby proof... that's the next hurdle... covering all electrical outlets... making sure you have wall anchors on heavy furniture so it won't fall.... Toilet locks so they can't open them... cabinet locks so they can't get to cleaning supplies... etc... Sorry for extra chores... but... maybe better to start early ? Oh also Congrats!! it will go fast... My parents didn't do any of this 1
HarveyBoulevard Posted January 11, 2023 Posted January 11, 2023 I didn’t either… I currently have a 9 year old and a 6 year old. How are they supposed to drink water if the toilets are locked!? I didn’t even ride in a car seat or use a seatbelt (although I did roll out the back door of the car one day while my mom was going around a turn) 4
ha_banos Posted January 11, 2023 Posted January 11, 2023 Do we still let them eat mud and worms these days?
Shrimpchips Posted January 11, 2023 Posted January 11, 2023 6 minutes ago, ha_banos said: Do we still let them eat mud and worms these days? I think that’s called “connecting with nature” these days. My two year old loves nature. 1
Lamboinee Posted January 12, 2023 Posted January 12, 2023 I have no words of wisdom other than to care and love your wife and child, which I am sure you will do. Congratulations! What cigar will you smoke in celebration? 1
GoodStix Posted January 12, 2023 Posted January 12, 2023 Congrats! 😊 Be mindful of work/business consuming so much of your life that the child years slip by without you being there enough. Find balance. You can’t get those years back. 1
benfica_77 Posted January 12, 2023 Author Posted January 12, 2023 16 hours ago, Lamboinee said: I have no words of wisdom other than to care and love your wife and child, which I am sure you will do. Congratulations! What cigar will you smoke in celebration? Great question. Going to have a Trinidad Topes LE 2016 that i have been saving. Going to have it next week I hope. 3
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