Understanding Girlfriends/Wives/Partners

[jdo2110]

Wow, Pigfish, wherever you are looks like a little slice of paradise!

[polarbear]

A girlfriend once threatened me to choose her or cigars. Shame, I do miss that girl sometimes

I told my missus "the day you try and make me get rid of my cigars is the day I get rid of you"

That being said, my greatest fear is that the missus might one day sell all my cigars for the price I said I paid for them...

[JimC]

After 30 years she knows better than to try to change me.

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[CanuckSARTech]

Erin is awesome. I struck well above my league. I'm very lucky.

[MontrealRon]

My wife has her cigarettes, I have my cigars.

We both smoke at home, and neither tries to change the other.

We try to share our discretionary money fairly, and so avoid conflict.

Yes, we will all die, but the biggest killer is stress.

If smoking relieves your stress, it may well be extending your lifespan.

Even if it does not, at least the time you have will be more pleasant.

Every successful relationship is based on give and take,

and tolerance of each other's foibles and quirks.

The glue is a shared sense of values and morality.

If this core is strong, a couple can face life's challenges as a team,

each contributing their strengths, and supporting the other when necessary.

It is my belief that there are only two kinds of people in this world - givers and takers.

if you are a giver, make sure that your partner is a giver as well.

If one is a giver and the other a taker, it is a recipe for disaster.

If your partner insists on being in control, and tries to remake you in his/her image -

run for the hills!

[CaptainQuintero]

I have to give up a couple of cigars out of each box for her to smoke, I'm fine with that

[JHands]

I got my girlfriend smoking with me she loves a short story so that is how I support my local shop - buying her a few short stories to keep on hand plus the occasional drew estate stick. Otherwise my business goes to some guy in Australia

[Faire]

I fortunately have a girlfriend who supports all hobbies that I've had in the past, all that I have now, and all that I will have in the future. She's awesome. And she's not just trying to be nice, since we've been together for 10 years now. Whenever I get a new hobby, she even starts learning about it and starts buying me gifts related to my new hobby. Pretty lucky here.

Regarding cigars, it helps the fact that her father used to smoke some cigars every now and then... she enjoys the smell of a good tobacco.

[GammerSmokes]

The ex never fully embraced it when I started. When I got more into it, she came round... then a couple of months before I broke up with her she started getting pissed off with me buying cigars once every couple of months in small bulks;

'If you can afford to buy them you can afford to take me out to dinner/new dress/two week beach holiday in a 5 star hotel'

Hmm, my money, my rules. I bought her things... wench. The odd bouquet of flowers, bracelet or wine and dine venture purely out of me being a kind hearted guy. She gave me jack in return. Bloody takers...

One day I will find the right one. I think it is unhealthy in a relationship to constantly argue and bicker about things. Relationships should not be hard work in my opinion.

I know cigars, like all things tobacco are not healthy in the long run but damnit if I want to get an ear bend from someone about it, I would prefer it to be my doctor! That way, I can say 'yeah, yeah see you in a year!' Case closed.

[Omskakas]

Nice replies everyone. I think, I think the thing here is that everyone has his or her own way of being happy. Some have very peculiar ways of being happy (like cigars or fancy shoes). If we criticise the way our significant other gets their jollies the relationship is not going to go very well.